Here is a post I read on Reddit:

My teacher humiliated me infront of class

l'am currenty studying at university, female... this happened when there was time to submit the assignment when i went to submit mine, teacher checked it and he said that i needed to give 100 responses (we had to survey from google form and submit the responses) earlier he did not notify about it (that we need to submit 100 responses) so i gave responses from 8 people only. every thing was normal then i asked my friends if the teacher told them to submit responses from 100 people and they told me that the teacher did not told them so i was concerned that if it is really necessary to submit responses from 100 people.. then i went to ask him that if it is really necessary to submit responses from 100 people then he yelled at me infront of whole class "yes! yes! how many times i have to tell you " in anger. oh god i was so embarrassed and i silently went out of the classroom .. one girl was staring at me and i gave her an awkward smile.. i was so embarrassed and now i don't want to go to class because of that humiliation. what should i do :(

Here is my analysis:

What happened?

Another person got angry and raised their voice. Their emotions were negative, they were perplexed.

What did you do?

You didn't do one thing that you weren't aware you were supposed to do.

How do you feel about this? Since the teacher raised their voice at you and was perplexed, it gives people the illusion that you are clueless.

Plus, the teacher is an authority figure, which means that if they say something, there's a higher chance that people will think they are thinking correctly - while they are also a person, full of flaws.

Because the teacher communicated to you through negative emotions, raising their voice, and because in front of other people, you saw yourself in the perspective that you think others saw you: devalued, low.

What could be the objective reality?

You weren't humiliated.

A person raised their voice, directed at you. The "humiliation", that you put yourself in a low position among people in the hierarchy, is something you do to yourself. You make yourself feel that you're not good enough, that you messed something up.

You could have told the teacher that next time they shouldn't forget to tell you what their exact expectation is.

"But others saw it too, and I was really humiliated."

People's perception is fluid. A good example is when politicians debate, one argues, and we might think how well they speak, they are on top. Then their opponent also makes a few arguments, defending themselves and attacking. It constantly changes who is right and who is on top.

Similarly, your behavior can change people's perception of you.

So, it's not what others think, or what the teacher thinks, that you should worry about. You need to pay attention to what your behavior and speech will be like.

How do you think about yourself after this?

If you think of yourself as humiliated, oppressed, stupid - others will see you that way too. If you grin awkwardly, then you reinforce to them that the teacher's perception is correct. If you react submissively, they will see you as oppressable and will know that you are oppressable.

Those who are good will help you feel that you don't deserve this, and those who are mentally hurt may take advantage of the fact that they can dominate over you.

You are not oppressed, you are not oppressable. Only you can oppress yourself.

Perception is fluid.

There may be situations where it's not worth talking back, defending yourself. But what's important then?

That your self-image doesn't change even then. I have often been in situations where, from an outside perspective, and initially I could also see myself in an oppressed, miserable state.

But I knew that anyone can get into the situation I was in, and I was no different than who I am. Just because the environment and people showed a certain pattern towards me - I didn't become what they showed.

If I end up in a homeless camp, if I lose my money in a disaster, I haven't become less.

Life has changed, but my value hasn't changed by the fact that my material values have decreased.

"yes! yes! how many times i have to tell you?"

I know that when someone is yelling at you, looking down on you, it's hard to react calmly and well. In hindsight, always think about what would have been the right behavior - and next time, if something like this comes up again, then you give your mind a chance to activate that behavioral pattern.

You could have said to this that you only need to be told once. That you asked the others if they had been told, and they said no.

But let's look at a worse scene - when you are really forgetful, and let's say the teacher has already told you a thousand times.

Even then, you don't deserve to be yelled at. The fact that you don't understand something, it won't help if someone yells at you, it only increases negativity. You want to understand, but it's not working.

If someone yells at you, they can't handle their own emotions, their nervous system.

What you need to focus on is yourself - what you feel, what you think, how to change and be better. The fact that someone else makes a mistake, that they lose control, is their responsibility and their business.

You pay attention to how this affects you, and how to change this effect, how to interpret it for your self-image.